Manifestation is such a hot topic at the moment. Mantras, meditation and manifestation, along with productivity, goal setting and success has taken over the world. I’ve read countless educational and motivational books from entrepreneurs, yogis and brilliant minds which has taught me a lot, including teaching me that I hated my job so much that I quit and decided I wasn’t going to get a new one, left my flat and moved across the country all in the same month. I literally read a book, and walked out on my life. Yep, I was inspired (or crazy).
The idea of manifestation and quite literally making your dreams happen before your eyes is something you either subscribe to, or you don’t. If you’re all about manifestation, then chances are you know exactly what it is and what you should do to do create the life you want to live, but if you haven’t heard of manifestation, or you’re a non-believer, maybe you don’t know what it’s all about!
I am a believer, and the reason I believe is because I’ve seen manifestation happening right before my eyes. What’s funny is I often have much more faith in the ability of others than my own abilities, so I’m pretty good at manifesting things for others – particularly my boyfriend. There’s been times when I’ve said I know this is going to happen for you, I’ve imagined it, focused on it, and it’s happened – sometimes within the next couple of days and one time, that very same day!
My Experience Of Manifestation
The occasion that happened the same day was a musician who my boyfriend has loved for many years. They are a successful band who are really well known and he mentioned how working with them would be the ultimate dream job and I said ‘This is going to happen for you, I’ll manifest it for you’. I thought it over for a week or so and one morning I said ‘You’re going to hear from ‘fav band ever’ today’. With the time difference the message didn’t come through until the evening that day, but sure enough there was a message from the lead singer asking my partner to work with him on a music video… BAM! That’s manifestation baby.
Ok, so it could have been coincidence right? Well, yeah. It probably was, but that’s because when you’re manifesting, you’re setting yourself up that situation to occur. It becomes less of a coincidence and more of a planned event. For example, if I want to see my friend, I could not tell her and just wait to see if we happen to be in the same place at the same time, or if she reaches out to me to see her. Or, I could let her know that I want to see her, find out where she’s going to be that day and be there at the same time. Oh what a coincidence, we’re at the same place at the same time! Nope, I made this happen. It’s the same with manifestation.
When you choose to focus on something, you subconsciously and sometimes very consciously change your habits, behaviours, plans and energy to take you in a certain direction. It’s all about the energy and vibrations that you send out surrounding that thing e.g. spending time positively thinking about something means it’s on your mind, you’re more likely to notice opportunities to reach that goal, you’re probably talking about it to people in your life, and those people may also help manifest for you by letting you know when they recognise opportunities that could help make your goal a reality.
A great example of this was in Denise Duffield Thomas’ book Lucky Bitch, which tells the story of her manifesting a year-long trip around the world testing out honeymoon destinations. Denise told everyone that she was leaving to travel the world. She planned her notice period in her diary, made arrangements for leaving her flat, and told everyone what her plans were. Her friends started to suggest competitions and opportunities for travel to her, and this is ultimately what lead her to fulfilling her goal.
The more you put out there into the world, the more likely you’re going to find what you want because you’re open to it and because other people can do the work for you too!
When you don’t have clear goals in mind, you won’t find what you’re looking for because your eyes won’t be open to what you want and therefore won’t be open to what you need in order to fulfil it.
I know that in the next few years I want to move house, but rather than waiting to feel ready, or narrowing my search down to what’s available when I get around to doing it, Im signed up with agencies and check the housing market on a regular basis so that I know what’s available and how the market is priced, so that when my ‘dream house’ comes along, I’m going to see it, rather than having it come and go outside of my focus. I do the same with my career. I work for myself, and I don’t plan to work full time for anyone else again, but I keep my CV online and leave dialogue open because opportunities may arise that lead to great self employed projects or that can elevate my experience in other ways. If your doors are closed, your life is going to stay where it is, it’s when we open our eyes and open these doors that we can create the life we want.
This method can apply to everything in your life. If you want a puppy, tell people around you, look online, sign up to local pet adoption centres, and focus on your goal. If you want a promotion at work, talk about more responsibility, let your colleagues and bosses know this is what you want. By doing this you’ll be more open to the things you can put yourself forward for and personnel will have you on their mind.
Ok, so at this point you’re either thinking wow, I need to do this! Or, what a load of BS. So, if you’re in the BS camp, have you ever wanted a certain make or model of car and when you start considering it that’s quite literally the only make and model you see on the roads. Suddenly it’s like the world has been taken over by that car because it’s what you’ve taught your brain to hone in on and see. Those cars have always been there, people haven’t started driving around in these cars because you’re now looking for it, you can just see it now.
This applies to everything.
Manifesting A New Life
Another level of manifestation is choosing the person you want to be, or envisioning the thing you want to achieve and putting things in place to start living that life. If you want to be someone who gets up super early, has a smoothie for breakfast everyday and is super successful (whatever that means to you), then just do it! Set you alarm early, and eventually you’ll be an early riser. Start making smoothies in the morning and you’ll become used to this being your go-to. What will happen is the person, or lifestyle that you aspire to have or be, won’t be this distant unattainable dream, it will be your reality. One step at a time your actions and small changes will actually manifest that life for you and before you know it, you’re living the life you want.
I’ve done an exercise a number of times where I’ve written down, in a lot of detail, my dream day. A couple of years ago I wrote down that I wanted to wake up, carry out my Ayurvedic practices and my morning routines and then have time to do yoga. I didn’t want to commute and I didn’t want to work for someone else, in an office and spending my time wearing professional clothes and doing a job I didn’t want to do. I wanted to eat good food, live with my partner who I was doing long distance with at the time and I had specific career goals including doing my blog full time.
When the opportunities came up to make little changes, I took them. I knew I wanted to move, so even though it meant up-hauling my whole life again, leaving my flat which I absolutely loved, there was a window of good timing and instead of letting it pass, or putting it off, I took the chance.
I had a similar opportunity with work, I realised that I had to make the choice to leave and push myself to do my blog and seek other avenues for income if that’s what I wanted to do then I needed to put that into action.
I didn’t really realise what I was doing was working towards my goal, because I was focusing on the individual aspects, but during lockdown when I was having a bit of a tough time I found a bit of paper tucked away in an old notebook and it was my ideal day, written a year before!
I couldn’t believe it, because even though life was tough and I felt really unmotivated and a bit down, that piece of paper made me realise that I had manifested all of those things and that I was living that life! Yes, lockdown came along, yes I was feeling a bit rubbish, but one year prior to that, the exact life I was living was dream life! I guess the saying ‘be careful what you wish for’ is so true, because I had exactly what I wished for, but I was able to reflect and realise that I had been specific about location, who I was with and a part of my routine, but I hadn’t put enough specific thought into work and social aspects. This is where I’m focusing my manifestation at the moment!
How To Manifest
Here are a few of the things I’ve used in the past, and that I continue to use today to manifest my goals and better aspects of my life! Hopefully you will get some ideas of how to manifest if you never have, or give you some fresh ideas if you’ve been manifesting for a while!
Get Specific With Your Manifesting
Manifesting needs to be specific. If you want something, you need to be really clear on it, otherwise you won’t be directing your mind, your thoughts and your drive towards the goal you want to achieve. Whatever the goal or dream is, you need to be very very clear.
‘I want to change my job’. That’s great! But what do you want to change? Your entire career? The agency you work for? A specific aspect of your vocation? Try being super specific with this. ‘I will become a marketing manager within the next 12 months’. This gives you a very specific goal which you can work towards, with a deadline to complete it so you have some urgency within your mind. It doesn’t always have to be something big like this, it can be simple.
If you want to get up earlier rather than focusing on ‘I want to get up earlier’ which, let’s face it will probably just teeter off and be a distant memory by the end of the week, you could say ‘I will get up at 6.30am to meditate’. This offers a deadline, a reason and a mantra to follow, which will give you more to aim for in the long term.
Create A Vision Board
Vision boards are a great way to keep your end goal in mind. It’s easy to let your dreams take a back seat and drop out of your head completely on the day to day, so having a vision board helps to not only remind you, but it lets you physically see what you want. You can cut out pictures from magazines or brochures, print images and create a physical Pinterest board in your room or on your fridge, or you can do what I do and create a vision board and use it as your background on your computer and your phone.
By having these images on a device that I look at multiple times a day, I’m seeing with my eyes the things that I need to focus on, which really helps take it from inside my head, into the real world.
Manifestation Journal / Writing Your Goals Down
I have a journal which you write in goals for each month and you fill it in throughout to week to keep you on track. To be honest, I don’t have a huge amount of time to spend writing in this, or ensuring that I’ve focused on my goals every single day, however I do try and do this as often as I can and it really helps. I want to make a conscious effort to put more time into this though, as when we’re talking about manifestation, we’re talking about changing our lives and getting ourselves in a position to thrive and be happy, so even though I say I don’t have time, this should be the top priority.
If you don’t think journalling will help, I urge you to at least write down your ideal day, situation, career or lifestyle so that in a years time you can look back and see how much you have changed and whether or not you’ve become the person you wanted to be.
Use Physical Tools To Help Focus You
Occasionally I use physical tools to help me to focus my manifestation. These can be super simple like lightening a candle, or a bit more ‘swirly’ and be things like using sage around your home or crystals.
I have a candle that my friend gave me and when she did she told me this was great to manifest or meditate over as it was grounding. Whenever I light it I make a conscious effort to think positive thoughts over what I’m doing and I force myself to believe that this power is going to make good things happen. I light the candle when I have an important Zoom call, I’m creating a specific type of content, or when I know I need a bit of luck behind me. So far it’s been working really well for me. But do you now see how the power of manifestation is harnessing power in your mind?
The candle isn’t doing anything, but I’m telling my mind that because this candle is lit, the situation is going to go a certain way, so my behaviour, how I come across, my confidence and my ability to do that task is going to make this happen for me.
I like to hold a certain crystal which has a meaning attached to for specific days or events to give me something to really drive my focus and attention, and give me the same physical reassurance as the candle. It’s a physical reminder of what you’re doing and why you’re doing it in the first place. It’s the same with sage. By clearing my space with sage, I’m doing something physical to make space for new energy and new beginnings, aka, the life I’m striving to live or the goals I’m hoping to achieve.
Affirmations are great for some people, and not for others, but if you haven’t tried it, do it! Using positive affirmations is a great way of telling yourself the things you need to hear, giving your mind something positive to focus on and to give you something to keep in mind if you feel a little lost as to what to meditate on during manifestation.
The way I look at affirmations is like when you get a song stuck in your head. I get songs stuck in my head, of course! But I also get negative thoughts going around my head that are hard to shift. I read and listen to positive affirmations to help get positive and uplifting thoughts, sayings and feelings in my head. This can really change your mood and the way your day goes. By saying positive affirmations you can be specific to you ‘I am going to work on my blog full time’, or generalised if there’s nothing specific you’re reaching towards that day, ‘I am in charge of how I feel and today I am choosing happiness’.
Don’t Keep It To Yourself
Shout it from the rooftops! Letting people know about what you’re striving towards is only going to help you. As I mentioned before, the more people who know about your dreams, the more people can help you get there and support you through the process.
By chatting about it, you’re making it a part of your life already. You’re living with your goals and taking accountability for them.
If you’re worried about committing to your goals then that’s essentially being defeated by them already. If you don’t believe they’re going to happen so much so that you’re scared to even speak about them to friends and family, then they’re not going to happen at all. You need to have the belief that this thing is going to happen for you, or that you will achieve that goal, milestone or physical change enough to at least get the ball rolling. Believe what you want is already happening and tell everyone you know!
Acting The Part – Fake It Til You Make It
A little like the last point, you need to just start doing what you want to get what you want! Break down the elements of what you want to achieve and act the part. If you want a promotion at work, start taking on the role of the person you want to be. Show your colleagues and bosses that you’re capable of taking on more work, that you can handle managing a team, or a larger account or whatever it may be. Put yourself forward for anything you can think of that puts you in front of the people who make the decisions.
If you see this as taking on unnecessary work and doing something that won’t be appreciated or recognised, then maybe that’s not what you truly want to be doing or you’re not working with or for the right people. Stepping towards your goals isn’t going to be easy, but you should want to be putting yourself in the position of the end goal otherwise it’s not the right goal.
If you want to work on a blog full time then get the ball rolling! Create a blog, or if you already have one, create a blog post plan to ensure consistency and regularity. Take some courses, read books, listen to podcasts and start making space and time in your life for your blog to be your main source of work. Yes, you may have to work super hard doing what for a while will be two jobs, but you need to invest yourself to get there and if you want it, you’ll make it happen. You’ll manifest it!